I used to hate saying no. I used to want to say yes and hoard everything, thinking:
💭 “What if these opportunities don’t come around again?”
💭 “What will they think if I say no?”
💭 “Will they not ask me again in the future?”
So I’ve tried many way of saying no - like making excuses, and I’ve tried to delaying replying, or I’d postpone saying no with “I’ll get back to you..” or “let me check my schedule”.
And when I had said yes when I really meant no 🛑, I ended up resenting doing whatever I said yes too.
I realised it’s something that I have to let go of.. being everything to everyone. I have to stop saying no when it’s not a “hell yes”.
It was hard at first. Part of the reasons I hired assistants to answer my emails is so that they can say no on my behalf. But overtime, it gets easier.
These days, I say no unapologetically. It’s a no, full-stop. And most of the time, people are ok with that. Because when you say no, you’re freeing yourself and the person asking. Everyone moves on.
Try it. You’ll feel very empowered— truly honouring your intent and focus on your path. 💛
Do you have a problem saying no? What does this post bring up for you? How do you discern a no for yourself?
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